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The Problem Perspective

I’m giving some of my old posts some new life, looking back I’m copying and where needs be re-touching some of my old posts. It’s going to be interesting to see where I was at then and what I wrote:

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The world we live in is large, amazing, terrifying and wonderful. We are so small by comparison and when problems get to us we can forget this. I’ve found recently that my perspective on the problems in my life needed to change.

I’ve been going through a rage of numerous problems for some months now, from the personal to the professional. Sometimes it seemed too much to cope with. The way I was looking at those problems was making it worse and dragging me down. Thinking about this and and I decided that changing the way I look at the problem could help immensely.

I recently decided that being human being (haha) with a brain that can think and solve problems, is a good mental attitude to adopt of dealing with life’s ups and down. Changing my attitude and I’m looking at life in a more positive light, focusing on the the good things in it and not giving up has helped me immensely recently.

I’m not saying that this is an attitude we should all adopt, because everyone is different and that what makes people good at working out problems – our ability to act in different ways benefits us.

Simon 🙂

 

Check this out: ‘The Egg’

I found this on Stumbleupon and I had to share it, I think if the human race adopted life based on this principle things would be amazing! Read this, if it makes you think half as much as it did me it will blow your mind:

 

The Egg

By: Andy Weir

 

You were on your way home when you died.

It was a car accident. Nothing particularly remarkable, but fatal nonetheless. You left behind a wife and two children. It was a painless death. The EMTs tried their best to save you, but to no avail. Your body was so utterly shattered you were better off, trust me.

And that’s when you met me.

“What… what happened?” You asked. “Where am I?”

“You died,” I said, matter-of-factly. No point in mincing words.

“There was a… a truck and it was skidding…”

“Yup,” I said.

“I… I died?”

“Yup. But don’t feel bad about it. Everyone dies,” I said.

You looked around. There was nothingness. Just you and me. “What is this place?” You asked. “Is this the afterlife?”

“More or less,” I said.

“Are you god?” You asked.

“Yup,” I replied. “I’m God.”

“My kids… my wife,” you said.

“What about them?”

“Will they be all right?”

“That’s what I like to see,” I said. “You just died and your main concern is for your family. That’s good stuff right there.”

You looked at me with fascination. To you, I didn’t look like God. I just looked like some man. Or possibly a woman. Some vague authority figure, maybe. More of a grammar school teacher than the almighty.

“Don’t worry,” I said. “They’ll be fine. Your kids will remember you as perfect in every way. They didn’t have time to grow contempt for you. Your wife will cry on the outside, but will be secretly relieved. To be fair, your marriage was falling apart. If it’s any consolation, she’ll feel very guilty for feeling relieved.”

“Oh,” you said. “So what happens now? Do I go to heaven or hell or something?”

“Neither,” I said. “You’ll be reincarnated.”

“Ah,” you said. “So the Hindus were right,”

“All religions are right in their own way,” I said. “Walk with me.”

You followed along as we strode through the void. “Where are we going?”

“Nowhere in particular,” I said. “It’s just nice to walk while we talk.”

“So what’s the point, then?” You asked. “When I get reborn, I’ll just be a blank slate, right? A baby. So all my experiences and everything I did in this life won’t matter.”

“Not so!” I said. “You have within you all the knowledge and experiences of all your past lives. You just don’t remember them right now.”

I stopped walking and took you by the shoulders. “Your soul is more magnificent, beautiful, and gigantic than you can possibly imagine. A human mind can only contain a tiny fraction of what you are. It’s like sticking your finger in a glass of water to see if it’s hot or cold. You put a tiny part of yourself into the vessel, and when you bring it back out, you’ve gained all the experiences it had.

“You’ve been in a human for the last 48 years, so you haven’t stretched out yet and felt the rest of your immense consciousness. If we hung out here for long enough, you’d start remembering everything. But there’s no point to doing that between each life.”

“How many times have I been reincarnated, then?”

“Oh lots. Lots and lots. An in to lots of different lives.” I said. “This time around, you’ll be a Chinese peasant girl in 540 AD.”

“Wait, what?” You stammered. “You’re sending me back in time?”

“Well, I guess technically. Time, as you know it, only exists in your universe. Things are different where I come from.”

“Where you come from?” You said.

“Oh sure,” I explained “I come from somewhere. Somewhere else. And there are others like me. I know you’ll want to know what it’s like there, but honestly you wouldn’t understand.”

“Oh,” you said, a little let down. “But wait. If I get reincarnated to other places in time, I could have interacted with myself at some point.”

“Sure. Happens all the time. And with both lives only aware of their own lifespan you don’t even know it’s happening.”

“So what’s the point of it all?”

“Seriously?” I asked. “Seriously? You’re asking me for the meaning of life? Isn’t that a little stereotypical?”

“Well it’s a reasonable question,” you persisted.

I looked you in the eye. “The meaning of life, the reason I made this whole universe, is for you to mature.”

“You mean mankind? You want us to mature?”

“No, just you. I made this whole universe for you. With each new life you grow and mature and become a larger and greater intellect.”

“Just me? What about everyone else?”

“There is no one else,” I said. “In this universe, there’s just you and me.”

You stared blankly at me. “But all the people on earth…”

“All you. Different incarnations of you.”

“Wait. I’m everyone!?”

“Now you’re getting it,” I said, with a congratulatory slap on the back.

“I’m every human being who ever lived?”

“Or who will ever live, yes.”

“I’m Abraham Lincoln?”

“And you’re John Wilkes Booth, too,” I added.

“I’m Hitler?” You said, appalled.

“And you’re the millions he killed.”

“I’m Jesus?”

“And you’re everyone who followed him.”

You fell silent.

“Every time you victimized someone,” I said, “you were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness you’ve done, you’ve done to yourself. Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was, or will be, experienced by you.”

You thought for a long time.

“Why?” You asked me. “Why do all this?”

“Because someday, you will become like me. Because that’s what you are. You’re one of my kind. You’re my child.”

“Whoa,” you said, incredulous. “You mean I’m a god?”

“No. Not yet. You’re a fetus. You’re still growing. Once you’ve lived every human life throughout all time, you will have grown enough to be born.”

“So the whole universe,” you said, “it’s just…”

“An egg.” I answered. “Now it’s time for you to move on to your next life.”

And I sent you on your way.

 

Check this out: ‘The Egg’ – http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/2Y71nX/:1bLRwYj8:joFYDC_B

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Check this out: 37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old’

1. Not traveling when you had the chance.

Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

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Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

2. Not learning another language.

You'll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

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You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

3. Staying in a bad relationship.

No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

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No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

4. Forgoing sunscreen.

Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

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Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

"Nah, dude, I'll catch Nirvana next time they come through town." Facepalm.

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“Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm.

6. Being scared to do things.

Looking back you'll think, What was I so afraid of?

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Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.

Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you'll dream of what you could have done.

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Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

Few things are as sad as an old person saying, "Well, it just wasn't done back then."

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Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

9. Not quitting a terrible job.

Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don't make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.

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Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.

10. Not trying harder in school.

It's not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you'll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you'd paid more attention.

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It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.

Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that's when we're our most beautiful.

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Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”

When you're old, you won't care if your love wasn't returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

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When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.

You don't want to hear it when you're young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

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You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.

You'll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

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You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

15. Caring too much about what other people think.

In 20 years you won't give a damn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

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In 20 years you won’t give a damn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.

Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

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Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

17. Not moving on fast enough.

Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

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Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

What's the point of re-living the anger over and over?

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What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

19. Not standing up for yourself.

Old people don't take shit from anyone. Neither should you.

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Old people don’t take shit from anyone. Neither should you.

20. Not volunteering enough.

OK, so you probably won't regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one's life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

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OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

21. Neglecting your teeth.

Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

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Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you'll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

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Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

23. Working too much.

No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

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No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

24. Not learning how to cook at least one awesome meal.

Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

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Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

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Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

26. Failing to finish what you start.

"I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then..."

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“I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.

You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn't it be cool to be the life of them all?

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You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

Don't let them tell you, "We don't do that."

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Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.

People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

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People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

30. Not playing with your kids enough.

When you're old, you'll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

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When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).

Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you're old.

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Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.

32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.

Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you're young, but later on it becomes clear that it's how so many jobs are won.

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Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.

33. Worrying too much.

As Tom Petty sang, "Most things I worry about never happen anyway."

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As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”

34. Getting caught up in needless drama.

Who needs it?

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Who needs it?

35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.

Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

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Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

36. Never performing in front of others.

This isn't a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

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This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

37. Not being grateful sooner.

It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we're all so incredibly lucky to share.

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It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

 

Check this out: ’37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old’ – https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/37-things-youll-regret-when-youre-old?utm_term=.tgJR9jLyo#.aiZo8wOD9

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Innovating your life

I’m giving some of my old posts some new life, looking back I’m copying and where needs be re-touching some of my old posts. It’s going to be interesting to see where I was at then and what I wrote:

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Innovating in our lives can make life interesting and maybe change it for the better. Life can be get boring when facing the same problems time and again, doing things in the same way that we’ve done countless times before. Changing how things are done and new ideas is the cornerstone of innovation, applying this to how we live can affect how we look on life – is it dull and unchangeable, or a living thing that’s fluid and changeable?

Innovation is something that we hear a lot about, especially in the technology driven world we live in. We should apply this to our own lives. How often does an idea come to you that you think is good but are too afraid to try? I say try it! Life gets boring doing everything the same all the time… Do something different. It doesn’t matter what it is. Not everything will work. But hey, that’s life.

What sort of things could things am I talking about?
– Do you feel you could do more for a loved one? Do it. Go nuts and surprise yourself.
– Unhappy in work? Do something, change it or change jobs and go for something that scares you.
– Even down to simple and boring things, go to paperless billing because you hate sorting paperwork. Change a utility supplier because you’ve been with them so long now.

It sounds simple, even daft but how many big and little things niggle us that that we do nothing about. Make your life and everything around it the way you want it. Own it and manage it.

The other option is to keep going as we are – and that’s no good is it?

Simon 🙂

Employers – Being Consistent & Blame Culture

This is part of a series of posts that have been inspired by the attitudes of employers over recent years. Having worked in a few places and seen how the ‘Inspiration Leadership Handbook’ is applied (or in most cases not) I feel that getting this out into the blogging is long overdue.


 

As an employee, you’re trying to do the right thing normally. Based on what you’ve been asked to do by your direct boss and what you understand generally as company policy. For example, if there is a company process to go through before releasing a deliverable generally I as an employee will follow this.

But this time your boss needs it really quick, for whatever reason and you’re asked to bypass this process. Normally with the verbal command ‘Ship it!’

The employee feel uncomfortable, stuck between a rock and hard place – do they say NO to their boss? Or do they break the company process?

Normally the boss wins as he or she is there bearing down on you. So you do it. Then sometime later guess what – something’s gone wrong with it in some way, it’s not right at all and awkward questions are asked.

“Why was the process not followed – it would have picked this up!” Or something of a similar tune id uttered. The employee looks over to their boos and it’s at this point that the measure of how good or bad that boss is becomes apparent.

Sometimes they fess up – good boss, but sometimes they lay the blame on the employee. The poor soul has no backup, no proof and the only thing they can do now is either try and argue and probably lose or accept the blame. After the meeting a quiet thank you is sometimes uttered when big boss is out of ear shot. Whether or not you get the thank you, watch this guy, he or she is trouble with a capital T. Either it’s time to move on or time to make a stand, but seriously don’t take this kind of shit.


 

Company processes and policies exist for a reason, so any manager should NEVER ask their staff to take short cuts, it’s not reasonable and it’s not professional. Consistency will make sure that they know the boundaries, in a way it’s like dealing with dog or children. They’ll behave better when they know what to do.

As for blame culture, if employers haven’t learned by now that any blame culture in any company is toxic then it’s about time they did. Why are they toxic – simple, blame cultures only ever work one way and that’s shit!

 

Simon 🙂

 

Employers – Valuing Employee’s

This is part of a series of posts that have been inspired by the attitudes of employers over recent years. Having worked in a few places and seen how the ‘Inspiration Leadership Handbook’ is applied (or in most cases not) I feel that getting this out into the blogging is long overdue.


 

Rewards

Rewards are great aren’t they? Nothing makes you feel better than when an unexpected surprise bonus or something comes to you and you can spunk the extra cash in five minutes flat and feel good about it… or not as the case may be. It’s a sword with two edges and if wielded like an idiot, it will get ya!

This happened maybe 10 years back now:

“We had a bonus a few months back” my colleague tells me “everyone got one!”

“No, we didn’t – I’m sure of it” was my reply. My colleague however was adamant (not the pop singer). We agreed to dig out out payslips and compare, sure enough we compare June’s payslip and there it is on hers, not on mine. At this point you can imagine I feel really good about myself… not!

I was encouraged to talk to the CEO about it, being the non-confrontational person I am this isn’t what I like doing! Besides it smacks of begging and I don’t do that and right now I feel a bit unworthy too. So she drags me by the arm and marches me to the CEO’s office and explains to the CEO what’s happened. He says that this will be sorted out.

A few weeks later I have a meeting with the CFO, where he explains that my line manager had essentially forgotten about me and there was an apology with a rather whiny excuse that the bonus pot has all been used now. As a goodwill gesture they would give me £150 in my next pay packet. This was a mixed blessing, it was great to get something but at less than half of what my colleague got and after I had to ask for this the goodwill was kind of lost.

 

I wish I had never asked!

 


 

Treating everyone the same

This kind of thing is a minefield for employers and to some degree I sympathise becasue no matter what you do there is always one complaining and you know what – I’ve never wanted to be the one to complain.

But let face it forgetting people isn’t great and this often happens where people are invisible. What the hell are you talking about I hear you cry? Is there a whole workforce or invisible on Earth.

Well no, it just seems it. What I’m talking about is about not seeing what’s gone on in the background. I’ve had to watch while people who have asked me to prepare something for them. They’ve sat down for a few hours and worked out what they need. Then it’s given to me, I create the design, get it approved, raise the orders and arrange the manufacture. They then take this, test it and go yep, that’s good.They are then packed off on a jet somewhere for a week.

When they come back these people are applauded for their efforts in getting this demonstration done and well done and get awarded for their efforts as it pulled in some sales and things are good.

After you’ve seen it for the twelfth time it wears thin believe me. Just becasue you can’t see what the person in the background has done doesn’t mean it matters any less. It often matters more. On the back of this this also includes the office admin who arranged their air tickets, travel and hotels. The IT guru who makes sure he can get internet access, email and phone for their time away.There were loads of people involved in getting this to happen, but they’re rarely even given a nod.

I imagine if you go an a cruise (I can only imagine this) it cool to go and see the bridge and chat with the officers. But this ship would be going no where if it wasn’t for the poor sods in the engine room. They matter, just as anyone working in the background matters and trust me it pisses them off when this isn’t acknowledged. One of the lovely thing these corporate people like to tell us is that there is no I in team. Right, so start acting like it!


 

Giving Employee’s Value

Rewards is just one way of giving employee’s value, but let’s be honest perhaps the best way is to not forget them and give them the credit they deserve becasue everyone makes a difference. The hot shot who bring in the money is the flashy git who everyone see’s and may even have all the witty one liners. But I bet it would be a different story if he was the one that had to organise his own flights!

Simon 🙂

 

Employers – Employee / Company Loyalty

So this is one of the most highly charged subjects regarding employment in my point of view. Loyalty to a company is a very one sided affair and when we look at today’s job market is very old thinking.

Loyalty is a trait where no matter what, through thick and thin people remain loyal to each other and don’t give up on each other no matter what happens. Company loyalty is a different affair however and it has to be. They want the employee to be loyal to them and in return they will get to keep their job for as long as it’s convenient for them and you’re useful.

Ok, that’s not what they say to you but it’s what it means becasue in the harsh economic world we live in people are laid off, sacked and all that kind of wonderful stuff. But despite this there is still a loyalty expectation on an employee. This really is a little unfair, in the business world this kind of one sided agreement wouldn’t be tolerated, so why expect it of an employee.


 

Apparently ( I saw this online so I take it with a pinch of salt) Richard Branson says:

“Train your staff so they can leave, treat them so they won’t want to”

No, this is the kind of thing which is is an actual agreement. The company you work for wants you to work and you want to work for them. Train them to do the good job you want them to do and in return reward them for extra effort and good work.

There’s no mention of salary in this, this is perhaps becasue it’s a given. The company makes money from the employee’s work if it’s properly organised and in return you’re paid. This goes beyond that, it’s telling people that it wants to invest in an employee and help them to do great work so they’re rewarded. There’s no obligation on either side to expect loyalty as we all know no-one can guarantee this. But while working for this company you’ll feel empowered and appreciated.

Who would want to leave that kind of company?

Simon 🙂

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Planet Simon’s Mainly Manic Monday

Hi ya Bloggies!

There’s nothing like a Monday morning stuck in traffic to give you a good feel is there? I have to say I was irritated but there many more worse off than me.

With the end of the kindness challenge I find myself looking for new ideas and even going back to old ones for blogging. Who knows what will come out of here this week and going on – but it’s going to be a right mix up whatever it is.

I’m hoping that this week I’m going to publish a post that puts all or most of the short stories I’ve written (or partially written) into one place. I’m also carrying on with my series of posts on how employers treat employees. Do you have any views? Are there any stories you would like to share.

Let me know…

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