Category Archives: Life

What is a father?

Being the topical kind of guy I am, I was thinking this morning about what a father is so I put my thoughts into this post.

A father is someone who has photo’s where their money used to be 

– unknown

This is a quote I saw years ago and to me it’s perhaps the most accurate statement of what a father is.
The stereotypical father is a man that is out the door to work before the house is up, back at whatever time for meat and three veg, out to the pub on a Friday, is often grumpy and shouts when things go wrong and spends the weekend watching football and the F1.

While this is maybe true of some or even many fathers the true essence lies between lines of the stereotypical father.

  • Theres the father the provider.
  • Theres the father that instills their values.
  • Theres the father the social animal.
  • Then theres the father the man, competitive and striving.

Every father is different and marks the family with their own stamp that’s part of who they are. They want it to be a reflection of them and what they think is right and wrong. 

They know they don’t get it right all the time, I rarely do. But the striving never stops and neither does their love. Even in the midst of the fear, anger and maybe even hopelesses they may feel.

Just like in F1 – just because your pit stop put you back three places or you started near the back. It doesn’t mean they accept it. It pushes them to drive harder.

So for today… Give him a rest. Happy fathers day!

Simon 😊

Eternally Spinning through the Cosmos



Whatever happens today or any other day – remember that whatever we do here the Earth keeps spinning. Round the sun, spinning on it’s axis, days come and go years pass and the Earth keeps spinning.

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Life is so short – the Earth in comparison is eternal it was here when we were born and it’s more than likely going to still be here when we die. This cradle of life will keep going eons after we pass – whatever we do.

Simon 🙂

Jumping on a Hate Bandwagon

How may people reading this have been the subject of bullying or intimdation, not just by one person, but a number of people? I can imagine quite a few. The thing with it is though, why oh why is it that when one person decided to hate, that a whole load of other jump on the bandwagon?

Back in 2014 I had the dis-pleasure of working for a guy called Jim. He had done me a good turn and had given me a job when I needed one, I was grateful. But suddenly things beyond my control happened and at a time when I needed some emotional support he metaphorically and repeatedly kicked me when I was down. He was a total fucking bastard!

What made me even more desperate was that it seemed everyone in the team I was working with got behind him and decided to nit pick every thing I did wrong. To say I felt bad doesn’t even begine to descibe it. I’m not an emotional person, but even I couldn’t switch these feelings off. Constantly on edge, stressed and everything. It was unbelieveable what I had to put up with.

I got away from there fortunately, I found another job to which he asked me (and I quote) “where are you pissing off to?” I wanted to say anywhere away from you is better than here, but I maintained my calm and finished my last week in my usual way. He never said goodbye or goodluck – nothing. To say I hate Jim is an understatement and I will forever be damaged from the way he was an wonder why he became like this. But I will always remember to be carful about jumping on hate bandwagons from now on and do my best to stay away from them. No matter what the cost.

Simon 🙂




Big Rocks

Big Rocks

I posted this maybe nearly two years ago as I struggled with a great deal of life and bad things. While I’m in a different place now, it’s important to remaber this and I wanted to share it with you all again.


Dr. Stephen R. Covey,
First Things First

One day this expert was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration I’m sure those students will never forget. After I share it with you, you’ll never forget it either.

As this man stood in front of the group of high-powered over-achievers he said, “Okay, time for a quiz.” Then he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouthed mason jar and set it on a table in front of him. Then he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar.

When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, “Is this jar full?” Everyone in the class said, “Yes.” Then he said, “Really?” He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks.

Then he smiled and asked the group once more, “Is the jar full?” By this time the class was onto him. “Probably not,” one of them answered. “Good!” he replied. And he reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in and it went into all the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, “Is this jar full?”

“No!” the class shouted. Once again he said, “Good!” Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked up at the class and asked, “What is the point of this illustration?”

One eager beaver raised his hand and said, “The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard, you can always fit some more things into it!”

“No,” the speaker replied, “that’s not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is: If you don’t put the big rocks in first, you’ll never get them in at all.”

What are the big rocks in your life? A project that you want to accomplish? Time with your loved ones? Your faith, your education, your finances? A cause? Teaching or mentoring others? Remember to put these Big Rocks in first or you’ll never get them in at all.

Simon 🙂