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Kindness Challenge Week 2 – Self Compassion

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Week 2 Theme | Self-Compassion

Having compassion for others entails sympathy or empathy for their discomfort and suffering. This week we’re going to work on showing ourselves compassion. For some of us that might mean not being so hard on ourselves, not holding ourselves up to standards of perfection, or easing up on the negative self-talk. Many struggle with being their own worst critic, this week we are going to strive to be warm, understanding, and encouraging with ourselves.

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This is the theme of Week 2 of the kindness challenge, taken from the post above the Kindness Challenge is being run by Niki from Richness of a Simple Life. The challenge is being run in order to help people explore the kindness they show to themselves and others in their daily lives.

Week 1’s Challenge is here:

https://sfarnell.wordpress.com/2017/05/14/kindness-challenge-week-1-self-love/


Self Compassion Exercise

So this week I’ve been keeping a note on what it is I’ve been saying about myself in a negative way and making a conscious note of it. The idea is that I can apply the lessons of loving myself from last week to be able to counter this negativity.

These are some of the things that I’ve been saying about myself this week:

  • I’m crap about showing myself self compassion.
  • I almost always soldier on no matter how I feel.
  • I don’t rest when I can.
  • I’m quite self deprecating.

So, there are some stories behind this all is that when baking some cookies, I burned myself in a stupid way (don’t ask). Being the bold kind chap I am I carried on as I said I would in a bit of pain. Even making more as I said I would. As it got late, it was pointed out that I could have just left the second lot. This is when the penny dropped, I realised that I should have left it rather than carry on – to sort out the burn and just to rest.

As for being self deprecating, it’s kind of a mask, a humour mask. I often joke about my age or losing my hair or something and while it’s meant in a jovial way it’s still self harm. This also slides into the fact that I cannot take a compliment – I can’t. I don’t know what to do about it. BUT I also get offended with criticism.

Basically… I need to do some work on my thinking and how my brain works. How I do this – I’m really not sure. It’s going to take a while and I need to be aware that I’m like this and come up with strategies for dealing with these everyday situations, like a script of words and or actions that I MUST do to make myself comfortable in these situations.

For example:

  • If I’m criticized then not beat myself up over it.
  • I’m I’m complimented, thank the person rather than shy away, show appreciation and smile with a big beaming smile, maybe even be slightly silly about it.
  • Leave the self depreciation for when my hair really falls out 😛
  • Rest, chill and leave things whenever I can.

This I have to try and keep up for the rest of my life… It could be difficult!

Simon 🙂

 

Manic Monday on Planet Simon

Here we are… Another Monday! Where does the time go?

There’s not been a great dream going on here this week but there’s lots to come. I missed week 2 of the kindness challenge. With things as mad at home as they were I had no chance, but I’m hoping to write werk 2 and 3 at the end of this week… We’ll see eh?

Planet Simon also has a special milestone coming. Not to say too much about it but it’s big and I’m going to mark it in a special way. Watch out… You may be included!

Next is that Planet Simon now has a Tumblr page: Planet Simon Tumblr Page

This is so I can spread a bit of awesome even further!

Apart from that I’m around and about… See you out there! Watch out for the big one don’t forget!

Simon 😊

Where my feet have been – Karting Track

One place that’s always interesting to go to is the karting track, even if it’s just to watch. You see all the other driving around like lunatics trying to outrace each other and getting into all kinds of scrapes.

It’s good fun!

 

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This time I wasn’t taking part, I was merely watching….

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The marshals earned their pay on this one – the’re wasn’t a dull lap in sight!

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People were flying all over the place

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But at some point the race has to end – then I was watching my son and few others going out to have go… more sedate but always a good bit of fun!

That’s where my feet were this weekend! Where were yours?

Simon 🙂

Mystery Blogger Award

You guys know me – I’m a sucker for an award, so when J.S. Pailly nominated me for my second Mystery Blogger award I was naturally chuffed (I’m very British you see). Thank you for the nomination and thank you to Okoto Enigma for creating this award.

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According to Enigma’s website:

“Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion.

I’m genuinely excited when I get an award becasue it means that what I’ve done isn’t meaningless twaddle, it means something to someone like so many of you guys inspire me!


 

Award Rules

  • Put the award logo on your blog.
  • List the rules.
  • Thank whoever nominated you and link to their blog.
  • Mention the creator of the award (Okoto Enigma) and provide a link as well.
  • Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.
  • Nominate roughly 10 – 20 people for this award.
  • Notify your nominees by commenting on their blogs.
  • Ask your nominees five questions.
  • Share a link to your best/favorite post that you’ve written.

 


 

So as part of accepting this award, I’m supposed to tell you three facts about myself and then answer five questions from Outside Perception. Here goes:

Three Facts about me:

  1. I’m weird – No, really I am!
  2. I like music more without words.
  3. I’ve always had a mind full of adventures and people – but I’ve not thought about writing any of it down until recently.

 


Five Questions from J.S. Pailly

 

The Mystery blogger award demands I answer 5 questions from my nominator so here it is:

What do you want to be when you grow up?

I would prefer not to, but if I have to then I would like to be someone who plays outside all day in some way or the other.

What book has had the most influence on you?

2001 A Space Odyssey

 

Has a movie ever brought you to tears? If so, what movie was it?

Yes, it was Shrek!

 

If you were a dinosaur, which dinosaur do you think you’d be and why?

I would have to be a Tyrannosaurus Rex, becasue they’re mean and shit and no one bothers them much!

What will be the title of your autobiography?

How a weird guy got by in life!

 


 

So I’ve got some nominee’s of my own:

journeytoambeth

outanabout

mandibelle

arousedblog

thedarkestfairytale

teaandtales1

alliepottswrites

runwright

 


 

My Questions

  • What’s your most recent big achievement?
  • If I was anew blogger why should I come and visit your blog?
  • What was the last movie you saw? Was it good?
  • What kind of person are you?
  • What will be the title of your autobiography?

 

I hope you can all take part in this, but if you’re a no awards blogger then no worries just take this nomination as recognition of being awesome.

Simon 🙂

 

Manic Monday – Planet Simon’s Week

So this is yet another manic Monday, there’s a whole seven days left until the next one come and that means there’s seven days to do things, seven days to change out lives or even change the world maybe?

Being a little more realistic with the week it’s been a bit slow on the blogging front, there hasn’t been much going on here this week apart from taking part in the first week of the kindness challenge:

https://sfarnell.wordpress.com/2017/05/14/kindness-challenge-week-1-self-love/

Apart from the blogging world things are on the change, there’s anew job on the horizon and things seem to be looking up – don’t get me wrong it’s still manic but there’s some brightness on the horizon with this change!

Something I have learned recently is about the signposts of life, since September last year many things have been going wrong as if I had taken the wrong path and was being told it was wrong. In the last few weeks it’s been like so many green lights have been shining and I’m hoping this is a good sign fr things to come – we’ll see I guess.

I hope you can all keep up with this spinning planet, I hope you’ll follow the adventures!

Simon 🙂

 

Kindness Challenge – Week 1 – Self Love

So this was the first week of the kindness challenge and I was hoping to have been able to have more time to be able to reflect in this as I was hoping to create a sketch around this week’s theme.

This week’s challenge can be found here:

The richness of a simple life kindness challenge – Week 1 Self Love

Instead I’ve done some thinking.

It spoke a lot about improving our own self image to believe we’re worthy of loving ourselves. We have to do this so that we can then be ready to love and be kind to others. My thinking around this focused on what I beat myself up about and what kind of mantra I can have that can help me be kinder to myself.

 


 

I came up with this:

  1. Don’t worry (be happy)
  2. Don’t dwell on the past
  3. Always be myself
  4. Every cloud has a silver lining – find it.
  5. Screw what anyone else thinks

This list could have been shorter, but I wanted it to apply to me and maybe give a little inspiration to anyone else reading it. This thing about lists is they need to be short and sweet, or at my age I’ll never remember it 😛

So that’s this week done – I’m looking forward to week 2!

Simon 🙂

Be kind to yourselves!