You work too slow
You don’t know what you’re doing
I don’t like the quality of you’re work
I don’t like how you walk
I don’t like how you laugh
This was the short version, spilled out of his obnoxious gob as I sat there reeling from the tirade of abuse. Under normal circumstances this guy would be smacked in the gob by most other people, but I sat there with a professional hat on and took it.
Not only was there not one example of any of this half of the abuse directed at me was personal, plus there was one slight circumstance which might have explained a lack of performance lately – I had only two weeks previously attended my mother’s funeral after Β she lost a short fight with cancer.
Understanding
This kind of sledgehammer discipline towards people may have been acceptable in the past, but it would have been a long time ago. Understanding where an an employee is at and why they might be struggling and helping them get through it is surely better for them and their employer?
Going through that kind of destructive criticism isn’t going to help. It felt really bad in fact. Every day I felt my guts twist inside me when I was in there, every day I struggled to think of a way out and worked like fuck thinking it was me that was the problem.
So when I was re-reviewed I was told I was on further probation. Apparently most of my team had been in on the meetings that had decided I wasn’t doing great but not bad. Every single person involved had either forgotten what I had been through or couldn’t put themselves in my shoes and think what the hell I must bee going through.
Three days later I quit.
Well done you guys, if you wanted to inspire someone to work then you failed. If you wanted me out well done! These six months of my working life were my worst ever and it was so unnecessary. A little understanding would have gone a long way and would it really have put you out.
On a side note, the best think I heard from my boss here was “Where are you pissing off to?”
As if I told him the truth!
Simon π
. It does π Being a Sayer is a vocation, and I put on’t have it off if you can ever blockage the tide of inappropriate “helpful” comments completely!
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Wooooah, that’s COLD. I had a pretty horrible time in a previous job a few years back, but nothing like that! Still, it was just the nudge I needed to get me thinking about other, more enjoyable ways of making a living… And it sounds like it’s been onwards and upwards for you, too. So we win π
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Yeah jute moved on but I envy you and the beasties as that’s a great product and brand. You must love it!
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I do! Although working for yourself has its downsides sometimes… Between you and me, I think my boss is a bit crazy! π
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Crazy is good… I bet there are downsides but at least you only answer to yourself!
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Yes, I suppose it is better in the long run! I’ve always found it very hard to hold my tongue when I disagree with what someone else thinks I should do!
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Why does that not surprise me? π
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Actually, I think I’m gradually getting better at reining in my inner “Sayer”… But it’s taken long enough! π
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Yes but I can imagine it has it moments where it comes back!
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It does π Being a Sayer is a vocation, and I don’t know if you can ever stop the tide of inappropriate “helpful” comments completely!
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Lol.. I’m sure your helpful comments are much appreciated! ;-P
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Agreed, Simon you don’t deserve that mate, no one does.. Modern bosses need to show more compassion.. Your right it’s not like it used to be, soft skills are more important – fact.
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It amazing that this isn’t appreciated more. Thanks for dropping by mate π
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That is terrible. Working somewhere hostile is the worst. We spend most of our time at work so if it is not a “safe” place then it is not worth it. I’m glad you quit. Life is too short to work with horrible people.
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Thanks. It was fucking crap to say the least. I had to find a new job first though
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Unfortunately, people lack understanding of these situations until they themselves have to go through it as well. I can’t believe they wpukd kick you while your down though. That is quite shameful
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Well yes, but that’s what happened. It was a while ago… But still. Thanks for stopping by π
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I’ve been through that Simon, so I know how you feel.
It’s a tough call. Applause to you for coming through it.
Regrettably this type of anal cavity always turn up. On the plus side they tend to get their just desserts when the whole thing collapses under their own incompetence.
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One way or the other it gets them I think.
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Just desserts.
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Wow. I’ve had some pretty bad work experiences, but nothing like that. Managers and bosses I’ve worked for have at least pretended to care. Maybe they didn’t pretend very hard, but still….
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This guy didn’t even try!
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Wow, that’s terrible. I’m really sorry you had to go through that. Whatever the job, no one should have to put up with that. We might have to work to get by, but that doesn’t mean we should have to be degraded for selling our time to our bosses. It’s amazing how many people in management use that approach, tearing down employees, rather than building them, as a psychological weapon to keep them from leaving. I’m glad you got out of there. Here’s to you.
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Thanks Scott, looking back its a learning experience and one I don’t want to repeat lol
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I’m so sorry you had to go through that! Some people are just jerks!
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Oh yes, there’s more than a few about.
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Yeah and I’m really sorry about your mother. I can’t even imagine how difficult that must have been for you.
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It wasn’t easy… Thanks Pooja π
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sorry for your losses Simon, especially your mother .. that’s what you were doing the day you were being obtuse .. job, well it sounds like you might find a more congenial one and soon I hope
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Oh this was a few years ago now. Obtuse? I hope I wasn’t π
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sorry thought this just happened … yea you had
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I’m sorry I had been then. I can’t think why that works have been π
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I’m so sorry for your loss, but F work & those kind of people!
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Thank you Sahar… that’s pretty much what I did lol
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That sounds awful, I’m so sorry you had to go through that on top of having to deal with a terrible loss. My employer was equally as cold hearted in December, calling me in for work the morning after my gran passed away, not even wanting to accept no for an answer when I told him I just can’t leave the house. Didn’t help pointing out that I wasn’t scheduled for that day at all. Some people just lack compassion.
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I know, in this day and age you would think we have moved away from the attitudes of 100 years ago.
I’m sorry you had to go through that, can’t have been easy.
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