Employers – Understanding Employees

You work too slow

You don’t know what you’re doing

I don’t like the quality of you’re work

I don’t like how you walk

I don’t like how you laugh

This was the short version, spilled out of his obnoxious gob as I sat there reeling from the tirade of abuse. Under normal circumstances this guy would be smacked in the gob by most other people, but I sat there with a professional hat on and took it.

Not only was there not one example of any of this half of the abuse directed at me was personal, plus there was one slight circumstance which might have explained a lack of performance lately – I had only two weeks previously attended my mother’s funeral after Β she lost a short fight with cancer.



This kind of sledgehammer discipline towards people may have been acceptable in the past, but it would have been a long time ago. Understanding where an an employee is at and why they might be struggling and helping them get through it is surely better for them and their employer?

Going through that kind of destructive criticism isn’t going to help. It felt really bad in fact. Every day I felt my guts twist inside me when I was in there, every day I struggled to think of a way out and worked like fuck thinking it was me that was the problem.

So when I was re-reviewed I was told I was on further probation. Apparently most of my team had been in on the meetings that had decided I wasn’t doing great but not bad. Every single person involved had either forgotten what I had been through or couldn’t put themselves in my shoes and think what the hell I must bee going through.

Three days later I quit.

Well done you guys, if you wanted to inspire someone to work then you failed. If you wanted me out well done! These six months of my working life were my worst ever and it was so unnecessary. A little understanding would have gone a long way and would it really have put you out.

On a side note, the best think I heard from my boss here was “Where are you pissing off to?”

As if I told him the truth!

Simon πŸ™‚


40 thoughts on “Employers – Understanding Employees

  1. . It does πŸ˜† Being a Sayer is a vocation, and I put on’t have it off if you can ever blockage the tide of inappropriate “helpful” comments completely!

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  2. Wooooah, that’s COLD. I had a pretty horrible time in a previous job a few years back, but nothing like that! Still, it was just the nudge I needed to get me thinking about other, more enjoyable ways of making a living… And it sounds like it’s been onwards and upwards for you, too. So we win πŸ˜€

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  3. Agreed, Simon you don’t deserve that mate, no one does.. Modern bosses need to show more compassion.. Your right it’s not like it used to be, soft skills are more important – fact.

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  4. That is terrible. Working somewhere hostile is the worst. We spend most of our time at work so if it is not a “safe” place then it is not worth it. I’m glad you quit. Life is too short to work with horrible people.

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  5. I’ve been through that Simon, so I know how you feel.
    It’s a tough call. Applause to you for coming through it.
    Regrettably this type of anal cavity always turn up. On the plus side they tend to get their just desserts when the whole thing collapses under their own incompetence.

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  6. Wow. I’ve had some pretty bad work experiences, but nothing like that. Managers and bosses I’ve worked for have at least pretended to care. Maybe they didn’t pretend very hard, but still….

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  7. Wow, that’s terrible. I’m really sorry you had to go through that. Whatever the job, no one should have to put up with that. We might have to work to get by, but that doesn’t mean we should have to be degraded for selling our time to our bosses. It’s amazing how many people in management use that approach, tearing down employees, rather than building them, as a psychological weapon to keep them from leaving. I’m glad you got out of there. Here’s to you.

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  8. sorry for your losses Simon, especially your mother .. that’s what you were doing the day you were being obtuse .. job, well it sounds like you might find a more congenial one and soon I hope

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  9. That sounds awful, I’m so sorry you had to go through that on top of having to deal with a terrible loss. My employer was equally as cold hearted in December, calling me in for work the morning after my gran passed away, not even wanting to accept no for an answer when I told him I just can’t leave the house. Didn’t help pointing out that I wasn’t scheduled for that day at all. Some people just lack compassion.

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    1. I know, in this day and age you would think we have moved away from the attitudes of 100 years ago.
      I’m sorry you had to go through that, can’t have been easy.


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