Week 3 Theme | Self-Acceptance
By embracing who you are, you’re able to make choices that are in alignment with yourself and are the key to living an authentic and fulfilling life. It might be by learning to be comfortable in your own skin, stop making choices to please others, or allowing yourself to freely express who you are. Including self-acceptance in the kindness you show yourself is fundamental. We are only able to give and receive love and kindness in the degree to which we extend it to ourselves. Therefore, this final step of self-kindness is incredibly important as we move on with the challenge.
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.
This perfectly sums up the theme for Week 3’s Kindness Challenge which is about self acceptance. The Kindness Challenge is being run by Niki from Richness of a Simple Life. The challenge is being run in order to help people explore the kindness they show to themselves and others in their daily lives.
Week 1’s Challenge is here:
https://sfarnell.wordpress.com/2017/05/14/kindness-challenge-week-1-self-love/
Week 2’s Challenge is here:
https://sfarnell.wordpress.com/2017/05/25/kindness-challenge-week-2-self-compassion/
Self Acceptance Exercise
I find in life we’re exposed to a great many experiences, some good and some not so good. The not so good experiences are often the ones we remember the most as these have a negative impact on us and for some reason we struggle to let go of them, at least that’s what I find. The exercise on self acceptance is to take a look at those things that we find an uphill struggle, where we’re trying to be accepted in ways which are not natural to being ourselves and find ways and methods that can change this
So for me I put a lot of effort and passion into the things that I do, I’m a creative person, an engineer and thinker. I try and take pride in what I do and taking short cuts or not doing things well or with care is not in my nature. Having this slap dash approach has often been pushed onto me over the years, I need to find the best way to push back and be myself. Working in a way that isn’t me will give bad results.
I’ve also had things that have happened in my life or even not happened and coming to terms with this is not something that I’ve focused on, so I’ve decided I’m going to keep a personal book where I write letters to all the people alive or dead that need to know the things I need to tell them. Doing this I hope will help me to see the thing in my life that I feel aren’t good and help me to deal with them.
The last thing is the part I focus on least, my physical self. I’m not ashamed of how I am physically, but at the same time looking after myself better will not be a bad thing. I’m not seeking to become fit and hunky guy, but maybe being able to talk a brisk walk or to walk up the stairs without being out of breath would be nice. While I know this pulls me slightly away from acceptance, I think acceptance is good, but also accepting that I need to change.
So that’s me for this week, the fourth week should be at the end of this week, let see what that brings!
Simon 🙂
Hi Simon, Great post! I just got done reading some of the challenges from Niki and really enjoy the concept. I love your idea about writing letters to people of things you need to get off your chest. I can imagine putting it on paper really helps solidify in your mind the purpose behind the message. It’s a great thing you want to better yourself! once you feel better about your own body and mind, I believe that will be passed on to others by your positive attitude. Check out my blog for some “#SelflessSelfie” stories I think you’d enjoy:) Have a wonderful week my friend!
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Thank you very much for your comment, I will go and have a look at your selfless selfie stories 🙂
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It’s really hard to let go of others’ expectations and be who you want to be. Thanks for the push and the reminder. Good luck with it.
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It is and its good to know that this is appreciated.
Thanks 😊
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Actually when we start to think only , we realize how much we wasted our energy trying to become someone else..love the inner critic..that’s the first step…liked your words simon.
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Thank you Akhila… It refreshing to think like this and shake things up.
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Taking time to take care of yourself is essential. It doesn’t matter if it’s working out, starting to eat healthier or making changes for a better lifestyle…the important thing is to always make time for yourself.
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Fir me in my life right now… That’s really hard. But you are right and where I can I certainly will! 😊
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I’m sure you will ! 🙂 It all starts with a step in the right direction 🙂
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I hope it does… One step at a time eh? 😊
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Thanks for sharing your experience, Simon! I found the part about writing letters to be especially powerful! I’ve done exercises similar to that and they helped quite a bit for me personally. I’m so glad this challenge could help support you in any way on your journey. It’s an interesting concept, acceptance. There’s a fine line between accepting things as they are without being complacent. Thank you so much for taking part in the challenge this year! I hope you’ve found it helpful thus far. I can’t wait to see where the second half of the challenge takes you! Have a wonderful week Simon!
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Hi Niki, thank you for all the kind words and for running this, it has shown me a lot already and if week 4 is anything to go by, more is to come!
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I’m so happy to hear that! ❤
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All great points about acceptance. This challenge makes you look really deep into yourself and it appears that you develop much more understanding and “acceptance” for yourself. You are who you are with all you have become due to all that happened in your life – good and bad. Before we can make a change we need to accept and not fight who we are. That way we stand on solid ground and get the needed push to walk new pathways!
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For what it’s worth, I think you’re already fairly hunky.
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That’s worth a lot.. Thank you Lucy 😍
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🙂 x
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